“Attending the meeting were Igor, a powerful brute who can deflect missiles with his bare fists; Dr. Karamazov, who can control the world’s weather; and Ludmila, a sorceress whose powers include the ability to bend time and transform herself into a number of animals and insects.”
'What's the point of leaving the house on election day,' they say, 'the whole system is rigged!' Convenient, considering you didn't feel like leaving the house anyway. 'What's the point of giving money to the homeless? They'll probably just spend it on crack!' Convenient, considering it also lets you keep the money. 'Why bother starting a business, I'll just get crushed by the corporate giants!' Convenient, in that it also saves you a few decades of 16-hour work days and three ulcers. 'Why try to make friends, all of the people my age are shallow, brainless jerks!' Convenient, in that this lets you just stay home and watch a Breaking Bad marathon instead, which just happens to be what you wanted to do anyway.
This is why I’ve grown to find cynicism so frustrating — cynicism doesn’t cause inaction. The desire for inaction causes cynicism. And so you fight to defend your cynicism tooth and nail.
Me:I just watched a show about how successful (i.e. college educated) black women are not getting married.
Him:Why is that a show? What's the problem? A black woman is better off by herself than with a black man that will bring her down. There's no point in getting married unless it's about mutual love and respect.
Me:Well a lot of the black men on the show said that the reason black women are single is because they expect too much.
Him:Psh. Black women do not expect too much! What is a black woman supposed to do? She is educated. She has her life in order. And she is supposed to get with any old man because he didn't get his life together but still feels he is entitled to any woman he wants?
Me:Well they said that you have to look at a man's potential.
Him:That's what they want you to think so that you don't require anything in actuality from them. You look at who a man is. Not who he says he will be.
Me:The show also talked about why a lot of men cheat. They said it's because women were not keeping them happy or not sexually doing what they want.
Him:That's ridiculous. There's no reason for anybody to cheat. If a man is grounded then he will love his partner enough not to cheat.
Me:They also said that you need to make a man feel like a man.
Him:If I am a man then why would I need a woman to make me feel like a man?
Me:I don't know.
Him:A real man does not need a woman to make him feel like a man. He is a man, isn't he? Men who say that have an inferiority complex.
Me:Well they were saying that they need to feel like they wear the pants in the relationship.
Him:Look. A man does not feel threatened by anyone unless he does not have his own life together. And in that case he will be threatened whether a woman lays down and lets him walk all over him or if she makes more money or anything else.
photographer-touching-model-photography: now with more dick insertion
I feel like if you’re in a relationship with someone and exploring things this way, that’s cool. But if you’re using being a photographer to just shove it in anything you can convince on the basis that it’s “art,” you should probably stop and ask yourself if you’re really doing it for art or just because you’re lonely and can’t get it elsewhere.
Jacs is right. In such a case, you’re not a photographer, you’re an asshole.